Is your support and counsel of value as a friend?

As we walk thru the difficult process of a job search, we value the counsel and support of good friends..  Take a moment to evaluate how good a friend you have been to others in their time of need when sharing your counsel with them.  

Have you been there to help them by avoiding the following three" traps" that are not helpful when giving support and counsel to a friend in their time of need ....  the post found in its entirety at: 

http://www.raystedman.org/daily-devotions/job/true-but-wrong 

• First, they answer Job's words without trying to find out what produces those words (Giving counsel without first listening and clearly understanding the situation) 

• Second these friends' theology was right as far as it went, but it was very incomplete. (Sharing one's perspective overconfidently) 

• Third they never seem to refer to God for help for themselves in understanding Job's problem. (Not quick to pray and ask for God's help to do for the person being counseled what needs to be done that they can't do on their own)

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True But Wrong Daily Devotion for December 7 From the Writings of Ray Stedman From your friends at www.RayStedman.org

Read the Scripture: Job 8 Surely God does not reject a blameless man or strengthen the hands of evildoers (Job 8:20). When you read Bildad's arguments, you have to ask, What is wrong with this? It sounds so true and right. It is an argument you hear repeated many times today. What Bildad says is true and logical and supported by plausible argument both from the experience of the past and from the testimony of much of Scripture as well. What, then, is wrong? I see three things wrong with Job's friends' approaches. First, they answer Job's words without trying to find out what produces those words. They are zeroing in on what he says without understanding his agony. Job himself has admitted that he speaks rashly, but he says it is because of the unceasing torment he is going through. Those of us who have gone through deep, unrelenting pain know how this can try the spirit to the utmost, and we become testy and sharp. And because Job says certain things that sound extreme, his friends leap upon his words and try to analyze them. They make no attempt to identify with Job's hurt in their approaches to him. The second thing is that these friends' theology was right as far as it went, but it was very incomplete. They always spoke with the utmost confidence that what they were saying was the final word on the subject. There was no apparent understanding that perhaps there were aspects of God and dimensions to His Word that they had not yet seen. Their narrow, limited vision said that difficulties in a person's life are always caused by sin. Many of the problems of life are caused by sin; therefore, it is impossible to say that these men are wrong. Nevertheless, they do not see that there are other reasons God brings us into suffering. I am reminded of the famous story of the blind men and the elephant. They gather around this huge animal and by feeling it, try to identify what an elephant is like. One, grabbing the trunk, said an elephant is like a snake. Another, feeling the leg, said an elephant is like a tree. Still another, feeling the side of the animal, said that an elephant is like a wall. A fourth, grabbing the tail, said an elephant is like a rope. Thus they argued back and forth. All of them were right, and all of them were wrong, because they did not see the whole picture. The third thing that is wrong with these friends is that they never seem to refer to God for help for themselves in understanding Job's problem. They never pray with Job. They never ask God to open their minds and illuminate their understanding so that they can help their friend. The book of Job is filled with prayers, but they are all the prayers of Job crying out to God in the midst of his sufferings. His friends never seem to feel the need for further illumination on the subject. What a testimony to us for the need to speak cautiously when we deal with the deep hurts and problems of life. Teach me to reach out to others who are suffering and pray with them in a spirit of compassion. Life Application: Christ-like compassion will be quite different from that of Job's friends. How can we avoid being self-righteous, insensitive, and over-bearing when comforting others? Related Message: This daily devotion was inspired by one of Ray's messages. Please read "The Folly of Platitudes" or listen to Ray for more on this portion of scripture.

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